cheating has nothing to do with how beautiful you really are or how awesome you are how unique you are as an
the individual you see cheating has more to do with your perception of what you expect from the relationship that’s one thing and also
from the guy’s perspective.
Cheating is when one partner takes advantage of the benefits of the partnership at the expense of the other partner.
infidelity is when one person keeps promises of exclusivity while the other violates confidence.
Losing those you love hurts. Cheating can be Highly destructive or damaging and of course a great loss.
Can imagine how horrible it would be to discover your partner has betrayed your trust. The very person you trusted spending your whole life with?
cheating can infuriate the person, disappoints them, and shatters their hearts. When they’ve been cheated on, they ask “Why did this happen?” or “Why did their husbands cheat on them?”
before I give you any of them let me tell you it’s not because of you. he didn’t cheat because of you. he cheated because there was something broken or dysfunctional inside his own heart in his own life and you happen to be married to him and most of this starts off in adolescence and early adulthood.
Nonetheless, men are, for the moment, estimated to be much more likely to be unfaithful than women, with the latest research showing that 30% of men have admitted infidelity at 13% of women According to sex and relationship experts, we wanted to learn why men cheat, as well as, what to do if their infidelity has started to appear in your relationship.
Many of this could refer to men, but there is certainly a distinct set of motivations and activities specific to males.I want to go through some of the major reasons why men will cheat so you’re aware and you can avoid it earlier on and identify these cheaters before they act on it. and that actually leads me to one of the first major reasons that men cheat it’s that they are
1. Incapable of dealing with pain or discomfort.
This is what I mean.
Life is difficult. there are challenges that come up. I don’t care how successful, we don’t live in a 100% secure world. our expectations and inevitably life is going to fall underneath our expectations at some time whether it’s illness or death or you don’t get what you want.
whatever it is, we’re not taught how to deal with life. we’re not taught how to address the challenges. different people have different levels of sensitivities and also different abilities to cope with these things. so there are some people who have learned healthy methods of coping
- maybe they have a strong social circle that they learn to lean on
- maybe they journal
- go to a therapist
- or do yoga meditation the exercise
They seek ways to vent and release their sadness, their fear, their, frustration, their anger, and then there are other people who haven’t really learned these so instead of looking for healthier ways, they may drink alcohol or smoke or do drugs or look for thrill-seeking activities.
we all do this in some way shape or form but there are some people who are extremely feel-good or those types of men that might not be able to deal with the middle not being high not being down but just being here.
it might be considered a little boring maybe a little peaceful a little balanced and with it, those types of men typically end up with some form of self-destructive activity and it could be drinking drugs or sex-these are all primal avoidance activities.
we all have primal instinctual drives as humans.
- we want sex
- we want security
- we want relationships and connections with other people
These people can take them to the next level and they can do it even if it’s really harmful to themselves or to the people around them.
the second reason why a man would cheat is that
So you might have this idea in your mind of what that lifelong committed partnership means and potentially he never shared
those same dreams with you and he may have even told you he does so how do you really know I mean if you have this vision in your mind of a monogamous committed lifelong partnership where you’re there to support one another and wake up in the morning and talk to each other about your days and come home after work and just know that you there’s someone there that really cares about you.
You are just completely loyal and committed to this person and you expect the same in return and in his mind maybe his motives for being in a relationship were not about contribution maybe he’s super self-centered maybe it was for him more about well he just wants some security
he wants some level of dependence someone to rely on but he’s self-centered or maybe he never really wanted that marriage or that lifelong relationship maybe he feels bad because he does really like you but he just kind of never really wanted that but he felt too guilty or afraid maybe he’s a coward.
Men can be flat-out cowards and afraid to tell you what they actually want and what they actually think so they avoid the topic completely and from you, they might feel pressure or a strong desire and they might not want to upset you maybe they’re just people pleasers who are want to completely avoid contact and this is their path of least resistance.
So what happens? They feel the pressure or the urgency or the desire from you to get married or to be committed.
If you don’t have that open honest communication with one another or maybe you’re afraid to bring things up with him because you don’t want to upset well that’s great that’s a big red flag that maybe your communication isn’t really as intimate and as open as it should be.
3. An overwhelming fear of their desire being refused.
When someone is attached to another human, the relationship becomes tighter and there is an internal sense of guilt over what we should and shouldn’t do. It’s particularly complicated when it comes to sex and dating because all these things are interconnected.
Many men are choosing to seek security, sex without danger at home because that is why people ask “why do men stray in relationships?”
Anyone, regardless of their sexual orientation, will cheat on their partner. And why would they do this?
that it’s more down to how men and women are brought up, rather than the natural traits that drive them to be creative. Society has become less gender-based over time, he says because we see less gender-specific actions.
4. figure out a way to escape from responsibility.
oftentimes, men who have cheat want an easier way out of exiting a relationship. more often than not they feel less inclined to discuss their personal needs and desires in relationships. they don’t want to have real conversations and dialogues and perhaps discuss the real issue.
Therefore, they try to figure out a way to escape from responsibility by cheating. instead of addressing the problems they’ve caused. they cheat and just to end the relationship or perhaps the marriage.
5. He is looking for closeness and bond.
Cheating doesn’t happen just because of a man’s physical needs. when they feel invisible or isolated from their partner, their impulse to fantasize and want to have sex with others may increase remarkably. It is often important to have a woman in your life who can empathize with your struggles. Connecting with you deeply on an emotional level.
If he doesn’t that from you, he will get it from somewhere else.
6. Seeking revenge.
most guys cheat out of insecurity, jealousy, or disappointment. even if you’ve never cheated on him, he will still cheat jus to make a point which is not good.