signs he wants a serious relationship with you
It’s common knowledge that relationships can be tough.
There are so many things to navigate and consider before you even get into the nitty-gritty of a relationship, like how do we define “dating” or what exactly is the commitment?
And then there’s the fact that most people don’t really know where they’re at in their lives yet: figuring out career paths, finishing school, and dealing with family dynamics. It’s no wonder why so many people bail on relationships too soon!
But sometimes it feels like he wants something serious with you – but you just don’t want to take the leap until your life is more settled down.
Or maybe he doesn’t seem as interested as he was when you first started dating – but does that mean that he’s not into you anymore? Here’s what to look for.
Are you wondering if your guy is ready for a serious relationship? You’re not alone. Here are 40 signs he wants to be in one with you. Give it a read and see where you stand!
What are the signs he really wants a relationship with me?
1. He talks about his future plans and goals with you.
If your guy is talking to you about what his goals are in life – like if he wants to get married, have kids, or buy a house – it’s a good sign that he wants to be committed to you.
After all, if he doesn’t plan on sticking around with you for the long haul, why would he want to plan out his future with you?
2. He makes sacrifices for you.
If your relationship is going well and he’s feeling extra excited about being with you, he’ll probably make sacrifices to see you more often – like giving up a night out with the boys to go on a date night with you.
Plus, if he’s willing to give up some of his personal time for you, it means that he doesn’t see the relationship as just a fling.
3. He wants to spend as much time together as possible.
If your guy is always making the effort to see you and make plans for your next date without hesitation, he probably loves being with you.
If he doesn’t want to spend enough time with you, it might mean that he’s not that interested in a long-term relationship with you.
4. He’s just as excited about your future together as you are.
If he’s stoked to go on dates with you and future tripping about all the places your life will take you together, it means that he wants to be committed.
If he doesn’t share in your excitement, it might just not be there yet, or maybe he’s not over his last relationship.
5. He’s open about talking about past relationships and experiences.
If your guy talks about his past relationships and his past experiences with you, it’s usually a good sign that he trusts you and that he wants to make you a long-term partner.
If he keeps everything inside and never talks about the past, it might mean that he won’t be as open in your future relationships together – but if he talks about his past relationships (and even flings!) he’s definitely trying to get into something serious with you.
6. He lets you in on his life – and his favorite things.
If your guy shares with you what his favorite drink is, where he spends most nights after work, and what he likes to do in his free time, it probably means that he’s interested in being committed – and that he’s really opened up to you.
If you guys have talked about dating exclusively or even called each other boyfriend and girlfriend, it usually means that he wants a serious relationship.
7. He lets you know he’s interested in getting to know you better.
If your guy has already told you that he wants to date exclusively or see where the relationship will go, it probably means that he’s looking for something serious – and is ready to make a commitment.
After all, if he wasn’t interested in making this a long-term thing, why would he rush into saying anything?
8. He makes future plans with you.
If the guy has already started making plans for dates in the future – like next weekend or after he’s finished working late on a project – it means that he wants to keep seeing you and that he doesn’t want to wait before being committed.
If he’s not planning anything at all, it means that he’s not ready for something serious yet.
9. He tells you how great your relationship is going.
If your guy keeps telling you how awesome the two of you are together and how happy he is to have met you, it probably means that he wants to make things official.
If he doesn’t compliment and praise your relationship or doesn’t want to make it official at all, it means that he doesn’t see you as much of a priority.
10. He tells you he loves you.
Wow, if he tells you that he loves you – or even just says it without being prompted – it means that he’s seriously committed to this relationship.
If not, then things are probably still casual between the two of you and might stay that way for a while yet.
11. He goes on about how great his last relationship was – and how he wants to make this one better.
If your guy talks about his last serious relationship with you, it means that he’s willing to open up and make sure that this next one is really special – which shows commitment.
If he doesn’t want to talk about the past or make comparisons between the two of you, it probably means that he doesn’t see you as serious or important.
12. He’s always hanging out with your friends.
It might seem like a small thing, but if your man is happy to chill and hang out with all of your friends – especially if they’re not his own – it means that he genuinely wants to be in the space of your social life.
And if he doesn’t, or never has your friends over to his place, it probably means that he’s not interested in being with you long-term yet.
13. He makes room for you in his life – but also keeps some personal space too.
If your guy is excited to make time for you and show up just because you’ve texted him, he probably wants to be with you.
But on the other hand, if he doesn’t need anyone in his life yet and is happy being independent – or even asks you why you’re always trying to bring him into your life – it means that he might not be ready for something serious just yet.
14. He makes time for you – even if he’s busy.
If your guy wants to make time for you, it means that – even if he is stressed or really busy with his own life – he still wants to see you and isn’t prepared to sacrifice the relationship just yet.
If he often makes excuses or cancels plans, it probably means that he doesn’t see you as a priority just yet.
15. He tells you that he can’t stop thinking about you – and never stops talking about how great the relationship is going.
If your guy is constantly raving about how happy he is with this new romance, or if he talks about it all the time to his friends and family, it means that you’re a big part of his life – and that he wants to make this a serious relationship.
If not, then it probably means that he’s just looking for something casual.
16. He tells you how much better this relationship is than the last one – even when things are rocky.
Even if your guy is stressed or freaked out that things aren’t going so well if he talks about how great you are and how much better this relationship is than the last one – even when it’s a little out of control – it means that he’s really committed to you.
If not, then it probably means that he doesn’t see you as serious or long-term just yet.
17. He values your opinion – and never wants to hold back.
If your guy always tries his best to communicate with you about how you feel or what you like,
no matter how upset he might get in the process, then it probably means that he wants this relationship to be a serious thing.
And if he tries his best not to hold anything back, even if it means risking an argument or confrontation, then it probably means that he’s in the game for the long term!
18. He tells you how much he can’t wait for the future together – and never mentions the word ‘just’.
When your guy always talks about the future with you, it means that he’s totally committed to making this relationship a priority in his life.
And if he doesn’t ever say things like “I can’t wait for our trip next month” or “when we have our own place,” it probably means that he isn’t interested in making this relationship serious.
19. He tells you that he wants to be with you for as long as possible – and always treats you well.
If your guy is constantly talking about the future and how happy he is, it means that he’s probably really excited about where this relationship could go – so long as neither of you screws it up.
And if he treats you well and makes an effort to communicate how happy he is with you, it means that he’s probably feeling like this romance could be long-term.
20. He shares his life with you – and wants to know all about yours, too.
If your guy is constantly trying to get into the deep parts of your life, it means that he’s probably really trying to understand how you are as a person so that he can make this relationship work.
And if he loves every detail you share with him, then it probably means that he wants to know everything about you just so he can be a part of your life.
21. He tells you how happy he is being with you – even when things are difficult.
If your guy talks about the future or how much he loves the relationship but gets freaked out by conflict, it means that he really values what you could have with each other, but might be a little scared of the actual relationship.
22. He introduces you to his friends – even if they aren’t too approving at first.
If your guy never talks about you or brings up your name, it probably means that he doesn’t want anyone else in his life just yet.
But if your guy loves to talk about the relationship and introduce you around – even if things get tough at times – it probably means that he really sees this as a serious, exclusive commitment.
He tells you how much he absolutely adores you – and constantly points out why.
If your man can’t stop talking about the future or how wonderful he thinks you are, it means that he’s probably head-over-heels for you.
And if he always tells you why – and never says things like “if you change this…” or “when you do this…” – then it means that he wants a serious relationship with you.
23. He trusts your opinion on everything – even some very personal topics.
If your guy loves listening to what you have to say, it probably means that he’s really committed to being with you.
And if he trusts your opinion on topics that might be uncomfortable or even hurtful, then it probably means that he wants a serious relationship with you.
He makes excuses for missing dates – and tries hard not to ever cancel plans.
If your guy really cares about the relationship, he’s probably going out of his way to be with you as often as possible – even if it means making excuses (or canceling) in the process. And if he never cancels, it most likely means that he wants this romance to be a serious thing.
24. He respects you – and knows how to handle conflict.
If your guy never brings up the future and focuses on enjoying the present, it probably means that he’s scared of this relationship becoming something more.
But if he respects you in all situations – even when things get difficult – then it probably means that he values what you have so much that he doesn’t want to screw it up.
25. He tries his best not to hurt your feelings.
even if he’s a little scared of the relationship moving forward. If your guy never talks about the future or how much he loves you but does things like avoiding conflict so that you don’t get upset at him, it means that he values what you have – even if he doesn’t understand it fully.
And if he tries really hard to make sure you never feel hurt, then it probably means that he wants this relationship to be a serious thing.
26. He loves your friends – and even starts developing strong relationships with them.
If your guy can love all the people who are important in your life, it means that he wants to continue growing his connections with you.
And if your guy loves hanging out with them, then it probably means that he sees a long-term future for this relationship.
27. He’s totally happy around all of your friends –
even if they aren’t too fond of him at first. If your man isn’t phased by the fact that your friends might not like him – both now and in the future –
it means that he understands commitment because he’s willing to stand by you no matter who doesn’t approve of what you have together.
28. He gives you everything that makes you happy –
even if it costs him a lot of money. If your guy is always trying to make sure you’re happy – even if it costs him a ton of cash or time – then it probably means that he’s really invested in this relationship.
And if he buys you things, just because it makes you feel good, then it probably means that he wants the relationship to be long-term.
29. He promises to always keep your interest at heart – and can always put your needs before his own.
If you man is willing to do things for you that he doesn’t really want to, it means that he’s into the relationship – even if it scares him!
And if he lets you know that he’ll make time for you and keep your interests as a priority, then it probably means that he wants the relationship to be a serious thing.
30. He’s not afraid of showing you how much he likes you –
even when it makes him feel vulnerable. If your guy is always trying to kiss you or give you hugs, even if there are people around, it means that he feels totally secure in this relationship – and isn’t afraid of showing you how much he cares about you.
31. He doesn’t mind when people ask him questions about the relationship.
He has no problem answering for it! If your man isn’t afraid to tell other people that you’re together, then it probably means that he really wants everyone to know what he has going on with you – which is a clear sign that he’s really invested in this relationship.
32. He always makes sure that your clothes are okay –
even if he feels a little bit nervous about it. If your man goes out of his way to make sure you’re dressed nice and look good, no matter who’s around or what the situation is, then it means that he wants everyone to know that you’re a couple.
And if he makes sure that your clothes aren’t revealing or inappropriate, then it probably means that he wants to take care of this relationship in the future!
33. He’s adamant about learning as much about you as possible –
because he knows that’s a sign of true love. If your guy is always asking questions – even if it means he might be annoying you – then it probably means that he cares about the relationship and wants to learn more.
And if he listens really closely when you answer, without interrupting or getting distracted, then it probably means that he’s totally into you!
34. He is always there for your big moments –
even if they aren’t exactly his cup of tea. If your man supports you when all of your dreams come true, even if they aren’t his own, it means that he’s willing to be a part of your journey and support the things that are important to you.
And even making sure that you have enough money or transportation for these big moments is a sign he wants this relationship to be a serious thing.
35. He knows what he wants in the future – but doesn’t see you as an obstacle.
If your man is always making sure that you’ve taken care of and never sees you as competition, it means that he’s totally into this relationship and probably wants to make it last.
And if he makes his goals for the future about you, then it probably means that he wants to plan for your future together.
36. He is always there no matter how hard the situation –
He never makes you feel like a burden.
If your guy gets really serious when bad things happen between the two of you, instead of making jokes or trying to get out of tough situations, it means that he’s serious about you and wants to work things out.
And if he never makes you feel like the difficult situation is your fault, it probably means that you’re important to him!
37. He buys you creative gifts just because – not for any occasion at all.
If your man gets thoughtful little presents for no reason or spends some of his free time doing a fun activity that he knows you’ll like,
it means that he’s totally invested in this relationship and wants to be there for you.
And if he tries to make sure the gift is extremely thoughtful and kind of unexpected, it probably means that he’s trying some romantic things in order to ensure your happiness!
38. He makes sacrifices just so he can see you happy.
If your man does anything just to make you smile, it probably means that he wants you to be part of his life and truly feels like he’s a better person when he’s with you.
And if he shows up at your house or works even though it would be more comfortable for him to hang out in his apartment or go to the office, it probably means that he’s willing to do whatever it takes to make you happy!
39. He gives you thoughtful gifts on random occasions –
and never holds back when you deserve a grand gesture.
If your partner always tries to come up with small ways to show his appreciation, whether it’s making breakfast all of the sudden or just giving you something he picked out without any occasion at all, it means that he adores you and wants to make sure that you’re always feeling loved.
And if he surprises you with a bigger gift once in a while, it probably means that he’s up for some more serious commitment
40. He lets you take the lead on things – and doesn’t try to dictate the future all of the time.
If your man always gives in when you start planning a big event or date,
then it probably means that he wants this relationship to be a serious thing.
And if he doesn’t always insist on being the one to call the shots, it means that he’s willing to put your happiness first.
Conclusion: 40 signs he wants a serious relationship with you.
If you’re reading this article, it means that you want to know if he really wants a serious relationship with you.
If your man is doing any of these 40 things, then chances are good that he’s not just looking for another fling!
On the contrary – most likely, he’s in it for the long haul and would like to make this commitment work.
And while relationships can be complicated sometimes, our blog post has provided some signs that will give him an edge on making sure his intentions are clear.
So what do you think?
Is there anything here worth considering before telling him how much you care about him? Let us know by commenting below or sending us a message today! We’re waiting right now 🙂