Have you ever wondered why pull your man away all of a sudden when everything was going on so well? You might be in a committed and romantic relationship.
Both of you are happy and delighted and suddenly, he changes probably for no reason. he starts to pull away and distance from you which is, by the way, common these days among men.
Despite everything that you both shared is now collapsing, you are in pain and wondering if this relationship is actually worth pursuing. you are confused and rightly so. He might be confused too.
If you really think that this relationship is worth pursuing then, you will probably give him the benefit of the doubt and try to understand where he is coming from.
what is he afraid of? what is he pulling away?
I will go through some of the things that are going on in his brain and why he pulled away. I have to state that these reasons are not the only ones that you need to be aware of.
#1. He is not interested to start with.
It may perhaps be the case might be -he had another partner or girlfriend. it may perhaps be the case that you were his rebound or perhaps he wanted to prove to himself that he still got it.
Therefore he is not interested in you. it may perhaps be the case that he doesn’t feel like both of you can get along well with each other.
Lastly, the worst-case scenario that he Lacks the courage to tell you and just pulls away for apparently no reason and leaves you with many unanswered questions and confusion.
That being the case, before you jump to a conclusion and judge him, you might want to take things slowly and find out if there is any solution.
Most men have this idea of thinking that the world relies on them. they like to control everything. he wants to control your day movement which is a really bad habit and can damage the relationship.
They don’t think about your ambitions, goals. If things don’t go his way, he will probably just pull away just because of his selfishness.
You don’t want to have to live with someone selfish. who only sees himself and wants to pull away whenever he feels like it.
If you really want to have a long-lasting relationship, then, you should stay away from such a person as far as you can.
#3. Terror and panic.
Men pull away because they are frightened. they are in constant pain and feel distressed, devastate, and incompetent.
they do all these because they resent you of you are.
You are much better than them and consequently, the thought of handling that is beyond them and that is why they pull away.
They feel ashamed and the condemnation and criticism kick in. Their conscience or inner guide starts to overtake them.
They hear these voices inside their mind- “what happened” and everything breaks down. when a man breaks down emotionally and physically especially from stress or anxiety, he starts to pull away.
#4. Lack of proper communication.
Communication is a vital part of any relationship. Most of the time we only focus on how to have effective communication in relationships. but we often forget that listening is also as important as talking.
To some extent, everyone wants to know that they are been hard when we are talking to people since we have our own egos, hence listening is a major part of communication.He wants you to listen to him whenever he is talking to you. when he feels like you not listening to him or giving him any attention, he is going to get hurt and feel offended. As a result, he going to pull away due to his pride getting hurt.
Nevertheless, if anyone wants to say something, the other one should listen. It just makes things easier and understandable.
At the end of the day, what is essential to you should be essential to him as well and vice versa.
worst-case scenario, when both of you are in an argument, no one wants to listen. which makes things even worse. try to make your points crystal clear so that everyone gets their point across in a very delicate way.
That is why we emphasize the importance of active listening in relationships. it plays a huge role in why men pull away if they are not getting the attention that they deserve.
#5. He is afraid of commitment.
Most men are afraid of commitment just because they don want to hurt your feelings. they might have gone through alt of women before they find the right one.
It not actually that they are afraid of commitment but actually committing to you is what they are afraid of.
If he is Mr right and he is not going to afraid of any commitment to you because he got the right one which is YOU. consequently, when he is afraid of commitment.
he will regrettably just pull away and break your heart.
#6. Distress that you not aware of.
In many cases, it is not your fault that he pulled away. it could be that he is distress and he is going through a lot of Extreme anxiety, sorrow, or pain and he just wants some space.
That doesn’t necessarily mean that you are the cause of his anxiety and distress but rather he wants personal space for quite a moment and that what he pulls away.
Most people assume that to have a perfect relationship, you have to rely on your partner. which by the way is not actually true. you cannot relinquish your independence and self-reliance to have the perfect relationship.
but sometimes it does feel quite overwhelming when you are in a relationship. therefore to address this issue, he might just pull away and distance himself from the relationship.
That doesn’t necessarily mean he is right here, but he wants to see if that is gonna make him better.
In summary here is are 7 reasons why men pull away.
They are afraid of commitment
They want their own independence and self-reliant
They are distressed
lack of proper communication
They are terrified and in panic mode
They are selfish in general
And lastly, they might not be into you.